Brown Sugar and Spice Pudding Cake

Preheat oven to 400.

In a bowl mix:
1/2 cup white rice flour
1/4 cup tapioca flour
1/4 cup potato starch
1 cup brown sugar
1/2 tsp xanthan gum
2 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp nutmeg

Boil 2 cups of water to make sauce.

In a liquid measure add:
1/2 cup almond milk
1/4 cup olive oil
1 egg
1 tsp vanilla

Mix well. Add the liquid to the dry ingredients. Mix until smooth. Spread batter into baking dish (I used a glass pie plate and the sauce spilled over a bit). Place 6-8 tsp of butter, I use Earth Balance, on top of batter. Add 1 cup of brown sugar to 2 cups boiling water.  Pour over batter in baking dish. Bake for 30-40 min. Serve with my Coconut Whipped Cream. Serves 4-6.

Effective Listening

My daughter, MonkeyGirl, has been coming home from school with a 'sore tummy'. The school will call me at lunch time and I go pick her up. We drive home and she jumps out of the car, runs inside and asks 'Can I watch a movie?' Well. . .this does not seem like a girl with a 'sore tummy' but I play along for a day, two days, three days. During our days home we have been discussing her tummy aches. She says she doesn't have enough time to finish her lunch at school so she gets hungry and then her tummy hurts. This makes sense to me so I try to help her by cutting and peeling all fruit, offering lots of snacks as well as a sandwich. I talk to her teacher about allowing Emalee a bit more time if needed to finish her lunch. Day 4 - another 'sore tummy' and another phone call home at lunch.

MonkeyGirl and I, posing in the sun!

I have just started reading Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon. The ideas in this book are helping with my listening skills. I ask Emalee about her 'sore tummy' again. She tells me that she goes outside to play but no one wants to play with her then they come inside to eat and her tummy hurts and she doesn't feel like eating. Ah ha! We have identified a different problem. The AquaMom I was before reading Dr. Gordon's book would offer a list of suggestions. 'Why don't you ask someone else? How about you ask a friend from your class before you go outside? Try joining in without asking.' After reading his book (at least the first half) I try listening to her instead. This is Emalee's own problem, this doesn't effect me personally or so this book says. It does make me incredibly sad that no one wants to play with my sweet, loving Monkey but for the sake of listening and helping her to solve her own problem I try to listen without advising or suggesting. I validate her feelings by saying that it looks like it makes you very sad when no one will play with you. She tells me more about her efforts to find a playmate. I continue to validate her feelings and listen as she tells me about what has been happening on the playground. When our conversation has come to an end we play and read a story.
This morning I ask her if she is feeling worried about outside playtime. She said nope, I'm not worried. This makes me feel great. I hope she has solved her own problem. This type of listening is very hard for me. I want to help my MonkeyGirl and I now realize that I can't solve all her problems. I enjoy listening to her feelings and she seems to relax when I validate them for her. This has helped us both when she is hurt or sad and crying. If I validate her feelings by saying 'You are feeling sad because you banged your knee and it really hurt you.' or 'Are you feeling frustrated because Mr.Man messed up your game, again?'
I plan to continue using listening and validation of feelings with all the relationships in my life.

Waffles

Mix in a medium bowl:

2 cups white rice flour
4 Tbsp sorghum flour
2 Tbsp tapioca flour
2 Tbsp potato flour
4 Tbsp sugar
1/2 tsp salt
 4 tsp baking powder

Heat your waffle iron. We use two Cuisinart waffle irons.
In another medium bowl, beat thoroughly:

4 eggs

Add:

3 cups coconut milk
4 Tbsp canola oil
1 tsp vanilla

Add the wet ingredients to the dry ingredients and mix thoroughly.  When the waffle iron is hot, lightly spray it with oil and spoon or pour a serving of batter onto the iron and cook until the waffle starts releasing less steam.  Serve hot. This recipe makes enough to feed our hungry family of four.

Coconut Whipped Cream

Refrigerate one or two cans of full fat coconut milk (I use Thai Kitchen) over night.
Open cans being careful not to shake. Scoop white (fat) from the top into a bowl.
Add vanilla and icing sugar to taste.
Whip until smooth.
Makes about 1 1/2 cups per can.

Enchiladas

Thanks to Karina over at Gluten-Free Goddess for posting this magnificent recipe.

Green Chile Sauce
1 cup  vegetable broth
1 tablespoon starch (tapioca, arrowroot, potato) dissolved in a little cold water
1 generous cup diced roasted green chiles- hot or mild
2-3 cloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon chili powder, hot or mild

Filling
1 15-oz can organic black beans, drained
3-4 cloves garlic, minced
1 lime, juiced
2 cups cooked sweet potatoes, cubed
1/2 cup diced roasted green chiles
1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
1/2 teaspoon chili powder, mild or spicy, as you prefer
dash of salt and pepper

You will also need:
2-4 tablespoons light olive oil

12 small corn tortillas
Shredded Mozzarella Sheese

6x9 baking dish

Preheat oven to 350.

Make your Green Chile Sauce by combining the broth, dissolved starch. green chiles, garlic and spices in a sauce pan and heating over medium-high heat. Simmer until thickened. Set aside.

Combine the drained black beans with minced garlic and lime juice. Toss to coat the beans and set aside.

In a separate bowl combine the sweet potatoes with the chopped green chiles; add the spices. Season with sea salt and pepper.

Pour about 1/4 cup of the Green Chile Sauce into the bottom of the baking dish.

Grab a skillet and heat a dash of oil. Lightly cook the corn tortillas to soften them - one at a time - as you fill each one.

Lay the first hot tortilla in the sauced baking dish; wet it with the sauce.

Spoonful of the sweet potato mixture down the center.

Top with a spoonful of the black beans.

Wrap and roll the tortilla to the end of the baking dish.

Repeat for the remaining tortillas. Top with the rest of the sauce.

Top with Sheese.

Bake for 20 to 25 minutes, until the enchiladas are hot and the sauce is bubbling around the edges.

Muligawtany Soup

This is a wonderful recipe from Karina at Gluten-Free Goddess.

1 tablespoon olive oil
1 tablespoon Thai Kitchen Red Curry paste
1 medium red onion, peeled, diced
3 cloves garlic, minced
6 medium carrots, peeled and diced
2 stalks celery, chopped
2 medium apples, peeled, cored and diced
1 medium sweet potato, peeled and diced
1/2 cauliflower, diced

1 quart light vegetable broth
1 cup coconut milk
Juice from 1 or 2 medium limes, as needed
1 teaspoon organic raw sugar
Sea salt and fresh ground pepper, to taste
1 14-oz. can chick peas, rinsed and drained
Finely diced red onion, apple, or chopped fresh cilantro, for garnish

You'll also need:

1 pot of cooked jasmine rice

Heat the olive oil over medium high heat in a medium size soup pot. Add the curry paste and stir briefly to season the oil. Add in the onion, garlic, carrots, celery, apples and sweet potato; stir and cook until softened, about 7 minutes.

Stir in the vegetable broth. Bring to a high simmer and then cover the pot; reduce the heat and simmer the soup, stirring occasionally, until the vegetables are tender, about 20 to 30 minutes.

Add the coconut milk, a squeeze of lime juice and a touch of agave or raw sugar. Stir with love. Taste for seasoning adjustments.

Adjust the seasonings to your liking. Heat through gently; don't boil.

Place a hot spoonful of rice in the bottom of each bowl. Spoon the soup over the rice. Serve the mulligatawny with a garnish of diced red onion, apple or cilantro.

Serves 4.

Resolutions

The new year is here at last and I have a few resolutions for 2011:

1. To be a conscious parent and spouse.

2. To make delicious meals almost every night.

3. To continue on my breastfeeding counselor journey

I have thought about what I need to do to meet these goals. I have started to actually take the steps to meet my resolutions.
I have purchased a book Parenting Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon. I have only just begun to read this highly recommended book on my Kobo eReader. I don't know what I am more excited about becoming a more effective parent or my Kobo. I can take this light weight electronic reader anywhere. It comes with 100 pre-loaded classics like The Jungle Book by Kipling. I am currently reading this to MonkeyGirl and part of my first resolution, to share my love of reading with MonkeyGirl.

Sharing a love of reading

 I purchased a day planner today to help make a regular schedule so that I can stay on top of my household jobs as well as meal planning. Tonight's meal is Mulligatawny soup (recipe is here). I will be trying a few new recipes every week as well as sticking with some old favorites.
Now we come to resolution number 3. I would love to attend a DONA approved Postpartum Doula Workshop in June. I have some reading to do before then. I am in the process of becoming an applicant for a La Leche League Leader as well . These two goals have intersecting pathways and both will be helpful to my goal of helping breastfeeding mothers.
Here is to the new year and to meeting goals.